You are not alone if you have understood by now that diets don’t work and you are tired of obsessing and controlling your body and food intake. It’s OK though if you want to eat intuitively BUT you also want to lose some weight.It’s hard to lose the desire for weight loss when we have […]
Why do people body check? People with distorted eating often engage in body checking as a way to cope with their negative body image. Most of body checking is used to control their weight and shape. If the result of checking is satisfactory, it means they are doing a good job on the diet. They could […]
Changing your body to “feel better” doesn’t really work. It feels good only short-term which is why the moment we get used to this new slimmer body we want to change it again. Your body will constantly change and if you don’t accept that, you will be “forced” to constantly go against the natural state […]
Photos/ mirrors can be very triggering especially during your recovery phase.Your body may have changed and you may be seeing a shape in the mirror that you have been avoiding for a while. You were hiding although aware that you don’t fit into your old clothes any more. What happens when you dare to have […]
Let’s get right into it. Shame after weight gain I have felt it, you have felt it, it’s pretty common especially after you give in and see the changes on your body for the first time. As a dieter you are so used to being in control over your body and the shame you feel […]
How I worked through my fear of gaining weight while healing my relationship with food (Personal reference: I went from 54kg to 63-64kg and stayed at this comfortable weight for the last 10 years). 1. I had to admit I was fat phobic I understood that I was conditioned to praise thin bodies as well […]
Unpopular opinions but I am going in there: 1. Not everyone eating a salad is on a diet. Diet culture robbed us of normal foods as “diet foods” (think chicken, salmon, broccoli, rice, vegetables…) so whenever we see someone eating healthy the first assumption is that they are either trying actively to lose weight or […]
Why having unsatisfying meals as an emotional eater can be a trigger? When we are thinking about food and eating, the first thought is pleasure and the idea of feeling different than the way we felt before we ate. We are expecting a different experience. If you are an emotional eater and you are trying […]
Healing from emotional and binge eating is tough if you are focusing on weight loss. Why? 1. If you are focusing on weight loss, you will try to do all the right things to get to the goal. Everything becomes about reaching that goal. This behaviour however (just like any diet) doesn’t help you to […]
When you are healing your relationship with food, trying to listen to your body, end emotional eating you will have confrontations with people around you. Some won’t get it and will think you are “fine”. Some will think it’s another “phase” and won’t believe it until they see the real change in you. On the […]