People often say they “don’t believe in moderation,” but it’s usually not about moderation itself—it’s about what they associate with it. Here are the most common reasons: 1. They’ve only known extremes Many people grow up with patterns like: If your history is full of extremes, “moderation” feels unfamiliar or even impossible. 2. Moderation feels vague […]
Constantly chasing a lower weight is harmful for several physical, psychological, and social reasons. Here’s why it becomes dangerous: 1. Your body fights back biologically Human bodies are not designed for endless weight loss. When you keep trying to shrink yourself: 2. It can destabilize your relationship with food When your focus is always on losing weight: […]
What’s going on when someone “eats clean” in front of others and then binges at home 1. It comes from trying to appear in control In public, people often feel pressure to: look “healthy” look disciplined avoid judgment So they choose the “clean,” “safe,” or low-calorie foods. But that’s usually performance, not actual nourishment. 2. […]
Mukbang videos: those videos where someone eats huge amounts of food — mukbangs, cheat-day videos, “I ate 20,000 calories” challenges — can be very triggering, especially for people dealing with binge–restrict cycles. And the problem isn’t just the amount of food. It’s the lack of honesty around what’s actually going on behind the scenes. Here’s […]
These thoughts usually sound “healthy,” “motivated,” or “reasonable” on the surface, but they’re actually restriction thoughts. And restriction is what sets up the binge. Here are the most common ones: The Clean Slate Thoughts These are about starting over and being “good.” These thoughts seem empowering, but they actually imply:There are ‘good’ foods and ‘bad’ foods, and I have to earn my […]
Counting calories seems scientific. Numbers, tracking, data, discipline.It gives the illusion of control. But that control is usually standing in for something else: So calorie counting isn’t just about energy balance.It’s about self-worth management. If Food Were Really the Problem… Then the solution would be simple: But if it were that simple: The reality is:Food is the medium, not […]
The obsession with counting protein has exploded in recent years, and while protein is genuinely important, the fixation around it often says more about diet culture, control, and fear than about health itself. ? 1. The biology: why protein matters (in reality) Protein is essential — it supports: So yes — you need protein, and getting enough helps you feel satisfied and energized.But here’s […]
Understanding the difference between “diet brain” and “binge brain” is one of the most powerful steps toward recovery. Here’s a breakdown in clear, compassionate terms: ? 1. “Diet Brain” This is the mindset your brain goes into when it’s focused on restriction — whether physical (eating too little) or mental (feeling like you shouldn’t eat certain foods). Characteristics: The result: You might believe you’re being “disciplined,” […]
Keeping 5 chocolates visible in the house could serve as a graded exposure exercise. Here are two possible interpretations and their uses: 1. 5 Chocolates as Food Exposure 2. Taking Small Amounts Each Day Which is Better?
Here are many examples (in bullet points) that show signs of a distorted or unhealthy relationship with food: ?? Mindset & Emotional Distress Around Food ?? Restriction & Control Issues ? Binge–Restrict Cycles ?? Obsession & Preoccupation ? Fear & Avoidance ? Body Image & Self-Worth Tied to Food ? Secretive or Compulsive Behaviors ? Ignoring Your Body’s Signals