Want to stop binge eating but you are not, why though?

Binge eating can feel like a battle between what someone wants (to stop) and what their brain and body do in the moment. People often continue binge eating despite wanting to stop because of a mix of biological, psychological, and emotional factors:

1. Biological factors

  • Restriction ? Overeating: If someone has been dieting or avoiding certain foods, the body interprets that as scarcity, increasing cravings and making binges more likely.
  • Brain chemistry: Dopamine and other reward pathways reinforce the behavior, so eating large amounts can temporarily feel soothing, even if guilt comes later.

2. Emotional regulation

  • Food becomes a coping tool for stress, loneliness, boredom, or difficult emotions. It’s not really about hunger, but about seeking relief or comfort.
  • Even when someone knows it won’t help long-term, in the moment it feels like the fastest escape.

3. Habit loops

  • The cycle of urge ? binge ? guilt ? restriction ? urge again strengthens the pattern. Over time, it can feel automatic.

4. Shame & secrecy

  • Shame after a binge can actually fuel the next one — because feeling bad often triggers the same coping mechanism (more food).

? Healing usually involves breaking this cycle with:

  • Regular, balanced eating (not restricting)
  • Learning alternative coping tools for emotions
  • Self-compassion rather than shame
  • Sometimes, therapy or support groups for binge eating

It’s not a lack of willpower — it’s a coping mechanism that’s gotten stuck on repeat.